What the voice inside your head says about you Risk and reward Trying to make a move on a friend is a balance of risk and reward, and men, more often than women, are attracted to opposite-sex friendseven when both people define the relationship as platonic. Men overestimated how attractive they were to the women, and the women underestimated how attracted the men were to them In one study, men and women were asked to rate how attracted they were to each other and how attracted they thought their counterpart was to them after a brief conversation. The men overestimated how attractive they were to the women and women underestimated how attracted the men were to them. People who rate themselves as highly attractive are also more likely to overperceive other's sexual interest in them. Perhaps the confidence of being attractive leads them to take risks, or they think they are more attractive than they really are, and so get rejected more often. Like when a person leans forward or laughs, or whatever — they view [that] as a sexual sign. They might not notice that when they leaned in the other person backed off. Male observers agreed with the man; they thought the woman was more attracted to him than she reported herself.
The reality is that most ancestor can only tolerate a a few amount of closeness. We are defended about letting someone also in. When viewing the earth from critical or distrusting eyes, we tend to write bad a range of potential partners before even giving them a chance. A friend of abundance felt closed off to a man who pursued her designed for more than a year. The men she was drawn en route for instead tended to be anecdotal and emotionally distant. What she found, to her surprise, was a high-level relationship choice, a partner with whom she collective a great deal of common interest, and, ultimately, genuine adoration. We may actually find ourselves in a relationship that is so much more rewarding than those we have experienced.
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