Say her name. She wants to know that your focus is on her and only her. So say her name. Again and again and again. Rub her clit. Touch her hair.
Around might be love. There capacity be commitment. There might be a solid friendship at its core. Worth it — although hard. Desire feeds physical closeness which in turn feeds association, nurturance and the protective defence around relationships. Intimate relationships all the rage which desire has faded be able to take on the shape of housemates or colleagues. There be able to still be love and a deep emotional bond in these relationships, there might even allay be sex, but without appeal the way we see ourselves and feel about ourselves changes and will ultimately play absent in the relationship. Understanding the nature of desire is answer to getting it back.